“What is next for me?” This question became a theme for me the moment I stepped off the stage at my college graduation. I was a bright-eyed and bushy-tailed college graduate with the “world as my oyster” ahead. Sure, I didn’t become the nurse, doctor, or engineer my parents hoped. Instead, a film student ready to take on Hollywood. They thought I was nuts! But I had plans and dreams. I imagined myself holding an Oscar in my hand. I couldn’t WAIT to see what was next for me.
Of course, months passed, then years, several odd jobs, a husband, and two dogs later asking myself, “So… now what’s next for me?” No, the career dreams didn’t pan out. Hollywood was out of reach. Life got in the way. Tale as old as time kind of stuff. After much reflection and experience, I realized that I wasn’t empowered to choose, let alone I didn’t know I could create choices. I lacked self-confidence and wasn’t aware of the gravity of my negative thoughts and emotions weighing me down.
Knowing what I know now, everything starts with being in alignment with yourself. To know alignment, you have to discover yourself at your deepest level and be able to answer the question, “What do I truly desire out of my life?” I learned so much when I took the leap and finally chose to become a life coach. For the first time in my life, I had felt so strongly and clearly saw the path ahead. I just knew and FELT it in my bones. My gut feeling, aka INTUITION, just KNEW that this next step was in complete alignment with the person I desired to become and what I truly wanted out of life.
If you find yourself in a similar situation where you’re wondering, “What is next for me?” ask yourself these three simple questions. Take a piece of paper or take your journal and reflect on the below.
1) What is my definition of alignment?
Alignment can take different meanings and forms for every person. So first, brainstorm all the thoughts that come to your mind when you hear or see the word “Alignment.” Then, take all of the terms, phrases, and ideas you have in front of you and answer the following questions for further reflection.
2) When I don’t have alignment or am NOT in a state of alignment, what negative thoughts and emotions are present?
Awareness is key. Period! When you understand negative-leaning thoughts present, you can empower yourself on what to do next with that awareness. That expands choice and has an impact on how you move forward. It will either be the best choice, or you will learn something. Either way, remember to release the outcome of the choice. Many overthink because we want to pick the most perfect decision, which can lead to severe analysis paralysis. The ability to release the outcome is REAL power and a life-changing skill.
3) When I have alignment or am IN alignment, what positive thoughts and emotions are present?
By answering this question, you’re creating what you want on the other side of what you don’t want. This will paint a picture of what is ahead for you if you expand your choices for yourself. Because you’ve learned how to release the outcome of your decision, you will know true freedom. You’ve detached yourself from what could be and learned to be in the present. For mindfulness tips, check out my Mindfulness post here.
As always, give yourself grace and kindness when introducing new concepts. Lean into the process. If you want to learn more and work with me one on one, book a free vision Strategy Call here!
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With love and light…